Learn to Use School Planners!
Teaching Your Child Independence and Organization
School Planners and Families
School has begun. Another year of communicating with teachers. Most schools give each student a planner. The planner is designed to communicate to parents. The planner is at school all day.
Teachers tell students, “Write the list of your spelling words on the Monday section of your planner. Check the spelling.” “Write your math homework on Tuesday.” Parents should expect to see the planner filled out every day. If your child is not filling out their planner it would be a good idea to ask the teacher if they are told to write in it. The idea is usually explained during Back-to-School Night.
Every day the planner goes back to school. If your child forgets the planner you should NOT bring it to school for them. Have them use a piece of paper to write on and then at home that night make them transcribe it into their planner
Organize your home so backpacks are packed and placed where you can’t forget them in the morning rush. Put them beside the door you use – where you basically trip over the backpacks so you cannot forget them. If you are in a routine where they always get in the same car every day you can have them put their things in the car the night before. Whatever works for you.
If your child learns this organizational skill when they are young you will never have those painful frantic calls, “Mommy Mommy Mom, I love you. I forgot my planner and I am going to miss recess. Can you bring it to me pretty please? I think you are so beautiful. You are the best mom in the whole world.”
Parents should expect to see the planner filled out every day. If your child is not filling out their planner it would be a good idea to ask the teacher if they are told to write in it. The idea is usually explained during Back-to-School Night.
Teachers can write a quick note in planners to communicate with parents. If you want to change a child’s behavior you need to get all the significant people in his life on the same page. If there is a divorce you need to get both parents on the same page.
Teachers write a note that says something like, “Had to send Joey out of class for talking during the lesson.”
Parents read the note. Parents MUST understand that removing a child from class is a huge issue for a teacher. Teachers want to teach. They want all the kids to be able to do whatever is being taught. If your child is outside, they are not learning. Then homework becomes harder because they didn’t listen to the lesson.
Discipline should be a bit like torture (NO NOT REAL TORTURE). Get a workbook appropriate for their age group. Give them five extra pages to do after they finish their homework.
Tell them lies and then back them up, we are having pizza tonight but you can’t have any because we NEVER reward bad behavior. So, you can make a peanut butter sandwich – no jelly. OR, no dinner for you tonight (nobody ever starved to death by missing one meal).
You should know what will hurt the most. I raised an only child so he never suffered the way I did when I was in my room and my siblings were playing and having fun without me. So, I would go in and play his video game. I am lousy at it. I would shout out, “How do you save the game?”
My son would drop to his knees and beg me not to do it. I usually called his friend and asked how to save it. They all knew if he had been rude to me because it was my job to make him so miserable that he wouldn’t do it again.
Good luck with all this information.
Check those planners every day!!! Use them to write notes to the teacher – but remember that what you write might be shared by your child.
If your child loses the first planner the school typically charges for the second one. If you are checking it daily the kids don’t lose it.
Have a great day!
Leave a comment about how you have used school planners with your children and teachers.